Do you feel like your partner has become your child?
Do you find yourself being his maid, his cook, his manager?
Have romance, respect, fun—and sex—been drained out of your relationship?
Sara Dimerman and J.M. Kearns might have just the answer you’re looking for. They are the authors of the upcoming book How Can I Be Your Lover When I’m Too Busy Being Your Mother? in which the address the oft occurring but rarely talked about Mother Syndrome. A scenario in which a woman finds she’s turned into a mother to her man instead of the equal and intimate partner she once was.
She has a day job just like he does, yet at home she finds herself doing most of the housework, running the home, and being in charge of the child-rearing, which makes her his boss in the one place they spend most of their time together. This leaves her feeling angry and resentful—hardly conducive to being lovers. Dimerman and Kearns boldly confront the issues, allowing both sexes to vent in a no-holds-barred exchange that ranges from hostile to hilarious. They deconstruct the problem using real-life examples and lay out a step-by-step path that will enable any couple to get back to being equal partners again.
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Sara and J.M. will be in Toronto on August 18th for an event with Indigo. Click on the image below for details.
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Memoirs have the power to move us, connect with us and allow us to share life changing experiences with people we’d otherwise never have the chance to know. Every Monday, we’re pleased to feature a memoir and open a window to someone else’s life.
This past weekend a majority of families celebrated Father’s Day. For all of us who have ever reflected on our father/son or father/daughter dynamic, this is the memoir for you.
As The Bill from My Father begins, Bernard Cooper and his father are the last remaining members of the family that once included his mother, Lillian, and three older brothers. Now with the elder Cooper slowly succumbing to dementia, Bernard is determined to capture a coherent picture of the Cooper family history and rebuild his relationship with his father. At his quirky best, Edward Cooper is a humourous cliché of an old man who fiddles with his hearing aid yelling “What? I can’t hear you.” Only to chide you afterward that there’s no need to shout. Like the title of the memoir suggests, Bernard recalls a bill his father once sent him for the total cost of his upbringing and itemized invoice adding up to 2 million dollars. But at his worst, Cooper Sr. is distant, petty and mean. Edward is intensely secretive and Bernard only learns about certain aspects of his father’s life through chance documents – such as some peculiar documents involving lawsuits against other family members.
With his razor-sharp wit and unsparing honesty, Bernard Cooper peels back layers of the familiar, exposing the surprising truths that shape our lives. The Bill from My Father is a penetrating meditation on both monetary and emotional indebtedness, and on the mysterious nature of memory and love. Read an excerpt from his memoir.
Lisa Oz knows a bit about relationships. Co-author of the bestselling YOU: The Owner’s Manual series and wife of Dr. Mehmet Oz, she has raised four children and is a housewife in New Jersey who moonlights as a writer, producer and entrepreneur.
Relationships are not just romantic exchanges between two people. They are how we interact with the world around us–from our closest friends to a delivery person you meet only once. But all too often, we fall into bad habits that interfere with our ability to have the most rewarding relationships possible. We begin to see ourselves as alone, isolated, or at odds with the rest of the universe. In US: The Art of Relationships, Lisa Oz offers anecdotes, research, and wisdom to help break those habits and replace them with a more holistic approach.
The book is divided into three sections. The first explores the nature of our relationship with ourselves – who we are at our core and how we can better integrate our inner and outer selves. The second focuses on interactions with others, from the most intimate connection with lovers to the way we treat the homeless. The final chapters look at the importance of a relationship with the Divine. Each section is filled with exercises designed to help readers apply the book’s message to their own lives, whether it means practicing meditation to become more attuned to the rest of the world or learning to communicate more effectively with others.
Drawing from her own experiences, Lisa shows how to apply principles from eastern and western philosophy to everyday life for a more fulfilling experience. As she shares stories from her own life, Lisa also draws on the teachings of renowned philosophers Emanuel Swedenborg, G.I. Gurdjieff , Richard Rohr and others.
Lisa Oz shows us that healthy relationships really are the key to growth of the mind, body, and spirit.